Love with awareness: The union of the spiritual couple
Love is a phenomenon misinterpreted. Love is not a relationship, that is a false love, the concept of the mind: egoistic, possessive, jealous, is the concept or ideal of love implanted in society used to dominate the other. The real true, and unconditional love, the love with awareness, comes from the real being, from the heart, is the only one capable of leading the couple to a radical transformation. A soul fusion.
The integral love of a couple is very different from relationships or marriage contracts. It is a path that requires a lot of compassion and acceptance of the other, to be his most intimate friend, without trying to change the other, only to love without ceasing to be your true self.
It is based on freedom rather than domination and possession.
Each being contains a man and a woman inside. The spiritual union of the couple requires that both have integrated their dualities into a single one to synthesize these two into a new one.
It is a phenomenon of synchronicity that two beings suitable for each other meet in this life, seeking both to walk together towards enlightenment. Even so, it will be a path in which both must be very alert because with exalted emotions it is easy to fall into the Ego. A deep love beyond the personality and interests will be key so that in moments of darkness and conflict there can be a bright tomorrow.
When two souls come together and synchronize their vibration, it does so too, making them able to feel the other even at long distances.
Can two true lovers become enlightened?
It seems that this is a common characteristic in society and that is that everyone loves someone who is not themselves. And whenever you direct your love to a person other than yourself, you will destroy it. Love must be like breathing, a totally individual quality.
People always end up frustrated with relationships not because there is something wrong with love. The problem is that they direct love, which is universal, to a single person, destroying their freedom and beauty.
The path to enlightenment is individual. However, when two beings have recognized their essential being and identified their Ego, that is, when they have initiated themselves, there is the possibility of walking that path together If two meditative and conscious people meet and decide to share their path together, it will be a test for both of them to see if they are capable of being loving, respecting and loving the other without changing anything about him. To be compassionate towards the other, these are the only qualities that can make the love of a couple a path towards the liberation of being, the path to self-realization.
Each lover can mirror the other, only a clean and dirt-free mirror can reflect and this requires prior work.
In order to perceive the being behind the flesh, sensitivity and clarity beyond the Ego are needed. Both will be teachers and disciples, great compassion and love will be required. The role of teacher and disciple will alternate, as there will be moments when a lover must "get back on track" to the other.
You are the love, it doesn’t depend on the object, on the other, it is not conditional.
The power of the union in couples
The love of a couple is the beginning, the first door, and the opportunity to be accepted and loved just as you are. It is a space to express your most intimate feelings and emotions. If love is mindless, selfless, free, and healthy, it will be very transformative for both of you.
The couple can be the bridge to understand universal love because it is impossible to give love to the world or to another being if you do not give it to yourself first. Once this couple's love grows, it also expands. Highly connected couples who, out of love for the other, have left behind facets of Ego without renouncing their essential being or inner freedom.
As the growth of the couple unfolds, the light it will project will be greater, touching other people to show them that there can be a harmonious and spiritual union.
Today it is not easy to find a spiritually united couple. The struggles and conflicts of the Egos prevent that union from taking place.
A soul mate, a spiritual partner, will bring you closer to your essential self. It will be your own teacher and will test your Ego so that both hearts reach each other. Having a joint life project can be an object of more union.
The false love idea of a relationship
Since ancient times, relationships have been perverted and used as a means of doing business. In modern society, it continues to occur in a more subtle way, since almost everyone looks for an interest in the other. An interest-based on owning the other to satisfy one's own desires. Most people see the partner as a means to satisfy themselves. There is no respect for their feelings or freedom. There is not even a real empathy, only the duality of sympathy and apathy, always based on conditional events and based on our expectations and desires. Couples based on false love, always end up subduing and destroying the other in some way. For the Ego does not like to accept things as they are, it always selfishly idealizes to bend reality to its wishes.
Marriage is the ultimate expression of the ugliness of society. It is a contract that ties two people to death from stagnation. It is a group of ideas in which it implants in the minds of the married, that the other is its own property.
Life is a dynamic and ever-changing flow. Love too. It is something alive and cannot be given only to a single person, much less to someone other than yourself in the first place. Nor should it be a fixed contract, since it is the most natural thing to fall in love with another person at another given time. Life is unknown, a futures contract based on fear, not love, it is for sure, a contract to the death of being. To slavery.
A healthy relationship is a free relationship, if you could always be best friends and lovers, the relationship will last much longer in time.
The false partner is a transgression of a love that is free, sincere and compassionate.
How to know if you are living a false love relationship?
1 It is common for there to be struggles to dominate the other
Love is freedom, trying to dominate or control the other is not love, it is ego possession..
2. Is there mistrust and lack of communication?
If there is no space to be yourself if you cannot express yourself without being prosecuted. Then there is no love.
3. Is love expressed with a possessive and controlling attitude?
If someone tries to change you "for your good", run away from all those saviors. You are not an object, you are a free being and love knows how to respect the freedom of the individual.
4. Do you try to change the other or vice versa?
Any path that does not include all existence in harmony is not a correct path. Hatred and fear are characteristics of the mind, Ego.
5. Are judgments and evaluations common?
If you hate each other, if there are judgments about how to be or stop being. If you have to tolerate each other, you are not in love.
6. Is your way of interacting robotic and mechanical?
When the way you relate is programmed, false and artificial, it means that the only thing left is a relationship based on morality.
7. Is there freedom and respect for the other?
There are two types of respects: The one that is forced and false, or the one that comes from love.If one does not let the other "fly", if he does not respect his life and path, it is because the relationship is not based on true love.
Seeking to master yourself?
How to find a soul mate?
The first soul you must find is yours. Soul mate cannot be found actively, from desire. It will be existence that connects you at the right time. Your responsibility will be not to miss the opportunity or ignore it.
If ever you connect with another being who makes you "be better", who accepts you, who loves you just as you are, who lets you be free…you will be facing a possible soul mate. The problem lies in choosing our partner from the tastes of the mind. If we only look at and matter what is external and apparent, without a doubt we will be very far from being able to recognize a soulmate when we have him in front of us.
If you are internally prepared, if you are receptive to life and listen to it, sooner or later someone with the potential to be your partner will walk through your door.
Remember that the more you think or obsess about finding a partner, the less chance you have it to be naturally. You must be very alert to observe that desire and see its root. Well, if you are looking for someone out of emotional need, it will mean that you are not a free being, you are dependent. If you are ready and receptive if there is joy in your heart your soul mate will appear sooner or later. Be natural, do not force, and above all ...
Avoid using the concept of relationship that society has as a reference: Do not be possessive, or domineering, do not change anything about the other person, or make any judge, help them to accept themselves. Love it just the way it is. Love the being behind the flesh.
Relating to the other is healthy, relationships are toxic, marriage is an imprisonment created by society.
Final words:
Every love affair ends in a failure. You may accept it o you may not. Your frustration is bound to happen. Your real love is for the eternal self behind the veil. You never look beyond it.
Only in yourself will you find the truth, the immortal being, and the true love. If you haven't found it yet, don't look for it outside.
Society has sold us a false conception of love as a couple. Real love is universal, and it starts with yourself. If there is no love in you, if you do not love yourself and love yourself, it is a bit stupid to believe that someone is going to love us in our place.
Almost everyone goes on a quest to find a soul mate, a true love. And almost everyone makes the mistake of looking for that being outside of themselves.
The love of a meditative couple is totally free, it does not understand contracts or commitments. It is a very intimate and totally free friendship. The natural and healthy thing is to be able to relate to several people and not focus everything on one who is not ourselves.
Trying to monopolize the other person in one's life is an extremely ugly and lacking act of love. Throughout history, men have treated women as objects, property, as possessions, not as human beings. Now with the apparent equality, it is both genders who try to control each other creating infinite conflicts.
All the promises of the future are lies because life only happens in the now. Inflexible marriage and relationships are false promises of future happiness that will never come.
Man and woman are attracted to each other but that attraction cannot last forever. At the moment of attraction, a thought comes to you to be with the other forever. That is simply your mind that wants to monopolize a moment of the present which is impossible to keep the flow of time. That truth, that attraction only belongs to the present moment. Tomorrow the other will not seem so beautiful, as time passes they will feel that they are trapped in the relationship. Nobody is made for anybody. You are your own soul mate. Share eventually your journey with others is beautiful, imprison yourself with contracts is ugly.
When you love, love totally, at this very moment, do not think about the future, that does not exist. Stop contracts and commitments, if at some point one of the two feels that the time together is over, not to make a drama of it, it is something totally natural. Life is a great path and on it, you will meet many people. There is only one soul mate, and that is yourself, your essential being, he is the love of your life. Forget the concept of romantic love only focused on one pers. It does not work or is natural. A full life is a free life and if love is not free it is not love.
You will find people in your life who will make you grow, people who you will love, do not get attached.
Share your fragrance with the world, love yourself, and love freely. If at any time you come across someone in tune with you, walk together knowing that one day you may have to separate.
Love is forever, friendship is forever, romantic relationships are not. If you are capable of love in this free and open way, you will be able to relate with joy health, honesty, sincerity, and deep heart alignment.
